Controlling Anxiety Before During and After You Go Out Into The World: Looking desperately, or desperately looking for that one thing that tells you how to be confident in who you are. Have you ever wondered about the people you see, that appear to be in complete control of their lives and their destiny ever feel insecure or have anxieties? The answer is they do. And they do, much more than you might think. It's being human.
In our society, anxiety has become a dirty word. If you have any form of anxiety, you immediately think that there is something wrong with you. Being anxious is a form of anxiety that can bring about positive changes in our lives. Once understood and better directed, it can be a very meaningful motivator. Anxiety itself comes in all shapes and sizes and has a doomy way of messing with our happiness.
Becoming anxious about your anxiety, usually starts with outside influences. These are the types of influences that we associate with our perceptions of ourselves. When good enough is not, at least in our own mind's eye.
I have a short story about anxiety. I recently witnessed. My wife and I were on our morning walk. We saw a hawk with its talons ready to kill a chipmunk it was diving for. The chipmunk managed to race underneath a nearby car. The hawk, who I'm sure was looking for his morning meal, missed out. The chipmunk got away, just barely. It's not hard to imagine that the chipmunk was filled with anxiety. The little critter became very close to losing its life by a few inches.
Now here is where the story shifts anxiety to humans.
Chipmunks climb up into engine compartments of cars up here in the mountains. They seem to have an insatiable appetite for eating wires. In a relatively short time, maybe a day or two, their munching on the various wires underneath the hood of the car will cause it to no longer run.
The owner of the car goes out with every intention of driving to work or to the store, only to find out it won't start. Opening the hood, he or she can see that the wires have been chewed up. The owner of the car is going to experience a tremendous amount of anxiety. Not only their intended use of the vehicle, but they discover it can cost thousands of dollars to have it repaired. An anxious moment for sure.
We all face what I call "apprehensive nervosity." In other words, we spend too much time concerning ourselves with what might go wrong. It can be as simple as a meal you just prepared, and you have been thinking all along that it's going to taste bad because you're not a good cook. Or you feel an unusual pain in your chest or stomach, and you're almost certain that you have some rare exotic disease that is probably untreatable. Your imagination can build on that one in pretty short order. The deliverable on those feelings sets the stage for anxiety. The more you obsess, the more anxious you become, and before you know it, you're having a first-rate anxiety attack.
What's the solution? Well, the quickest and easiest one is to tell yourself that you are nuts. Why would you build such a stupid notion with no facts or reality to even support it? Laugh at yourself. There's a magazine called Reader's Digest, and it's been around for years. They have a section called "Laughter is the Best Medicine." I'm pretty sure that form of medicine works wonders when it comes to annihilating anxiousness, which invariably leads to anxiety.
Trauma and drama. Not everything can be laughed off. There are some very serious things that can affect us. Making us filled with concern which leads to anxiety. There's no one solution that addresses these types of feelings. You can be sure that you are not alone. How do you deal with that kind of stress and anxiety? Some people become prayerful. Prayer can certainly help. Another method has to do with looking for the good. We’ve all had bad experiences in life. But when you look back on those bad times, you may discover that something ultimately good came out of it. It's important to remember that old saying, "tough times never last but tough people do." Negative experiences do not define who you truly are. Try to always keep that foremost in your thinking.
If an experience in your life is really bad, you can ask yourself, "can it get any worse?" This is where a little bit of faith, some logic, and maybe some common sense when you analyze the problem may help you find the solution. Or maybe you just need to understand that nothing stays bad forever. The sun will always come up in the morning, bringing with it nurturing light and a fresher look that provides the perfect solution.
Controlling anxiety starts with a true understanding of yourself. If you live your life always putting yourself down when you connect with others, it's not a good thing. But it becomes much worse when it's your self-talk. A negative self-image will always invite anxiety into your life.
No one wants to live from one anxious moment to the next. Think about how you talk to yourself. You know that inner voice that sometimes can be overly critical. Getting rid of anxiety starts by getting rid of your internal critic. You weren't born with that critic inside you. It's a learned behavior brought on by life's influences, both good and bad. Learn to be your own best friend, and you will be surprised how big and small annoyances will start to evaporate. Change your thinking, get up every day, and go out into the world knowing that you are the one and only you, and once you understand that, you will be surprised how hanging out with the you, inside and outside, becomes the best person you know.
"In my most earnest thinking, I discovered it's incredibly okay to be me. After all, who else should I really be?" Rod Jones Artist
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